June 28th, 2012 | Posted in Auditory Processing Disorder

kidsHaving an undiagnosed or untreated APD builds walls around children. Kids that have had continuing trouble listening also have continuing trouble adapting and trying out new things. They tend to keep those walls up and resist change. Your child needs to understand why you are asking them to make certain changes. They also have to feel that they are being set up for success, an experience that for a child with APD can seem much less familiar than failure.

Help your child to understand that success is cause and effect, not a roll of the dice or something that just “happens” to some kids, and that the choices they make and the strategies they use to compensate for their auditory challenges are a major part of what causes success. Children need to believe they are part of a team that is focused on finding solutions.  Together, the two of you will lead a group effort by partnering with the people in your lives who can also facilitate your child’s progress.

Take the time to speak with siblings, extended family members, friends, other parents, babysitters, day care workers, school bus drivers, teachers, counselors, coaches, etc. Share the strategies and facts that you’ve learned about your child’s APD and how to deal with it. Some parents come to believe that sharing or explaining about a child’s individual needs to others, especially relative strangers, is burdensome or an unnecessary airing out of private concerns. Actually, the opposite is true. Leaving the people who care about your child or are charged with looking after her or him to discover what your child is and isn’t capable of on their own puts much more of a burden on them and ultimately will add to your child’s frustration. Most people will be willing to adapt to your child’s needs once when they understand the unique challenges of your son or daughter’s listening disorder.

By reaching out, explaining what your child’s needs are, and getting the cooperation of the people in your child’s life you are creating a single nurturing and supportive shawl or blanket that will extend and expand into every part of your child’s growing community of people with whom he or she interacts on a daily basis.

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